Date selected. Checked.
Venue booked. Checked.
Guest list drafted. Checked. Not checked. Kind of checked.
Stress levels rising. Triple checked.
Was it just me or is making the guest list synonymous with the arrival of wedding stress? Between the family politics, school-friend obligations and trying to balance his side and your side, it can be hard to stay super chilled during this stage of the planning process.
That’s why today’s post is all about how to stop wedding stress, with five simple strategies that take less than 10 minutes.
Why You Want This
Remember when I told you that the engagement is about you? Prioritizing self care not only makes your wedding planning experience more enjoyable, it also keeps those around you feeling calm and content.
Why You Need This
Stress attacks are messy and not fun. Whether you end up in an argument, having a mascara-stained cry, or you boil under the surface until erupting in a full-on anxiety attack, there just isn’t a pretty way around it…
Unless you know how to meet that stress head on and take purposeful action to let it go.
Full disclosure, releasing stress, anxiety and even anger isn’t always easy, and simply doing these five activities may not be enough on their own. So what you first need to do is shift your mindset around stress, here’s how:
Acknowledge your feelings out loud: tell your partner that you’re feeling stressed, that it’s not his fault (unless it is!), and that you need some quiet breathing room for 10 minutes
Step out of the situation: take yourself away from whatever is causing the stress, whether that’s a text conversation with your mother-in-law, a guest list spreadsheet, or something on social media — leave the room, or even the house, and get some head space
Choose to let it go: This is the hardest part and requires us to tap into our most enlightened self, but to genuinely release stress you must make the decision to let it go —and stop wallowing in your own self pity.
How To Get Your Fiancé On Board
Some may say (maybe) that, in our household, I am (possibly) more likely to be the one who overreacts to stressful situations. Humph.
Because of this I do my best to communicate with my husband when I’m stressed and need a little space, see step one above. This way he’s not left thinking that he did something wrong, and it doesn’t turn into a big thing.
But perhaps you’re the one that’s cool as a cucumber and your hubby-to-be can get a little hotheaded. In that case you might like to communicate the key points from today’s post and help him discover how to wind down during times of stress.
How To Stop Wedding Stress In 10 Minutes Or Less
Simple, straightforward, super effective. Breathing deeply sends fresh oxygen to the brain and clears out stagnant carbon dioxide, literally clearing your head. Try this four minute meditation that focuses on breathing, or the super quick 4, 7, 8 breath technique.
Flipping yourself upside down, whether that’s a headstand, hand stand, down dog or even lying on your back and putting your legs up the wall (my personal favorite), is a quick fix for seeing situations a little more clearly. Inversions reverse the flow of blood and send fresh, oxygenated blood to the head, which enhances focus and concentration.
Move Your Body
Very few situations can’t be fixed with a walk or run around the block. Not only does the fresh air help to clear your mind, pumping those muscles will release pent up energy and help you feel more physically relaxed. Pick a song to match your mood or try this one by Eminen. #IAmPhenomenal
Color Me Happy
One of my bridal wellness clients was the first to put me on to adult coloring books and I have to say that I love them! Coloring allows you to switch off your brain from other thoughts and focus on the task at hand, helping to alleviate free-floating anxiety. Think of it as a rainbow crayon meditation!
Get Perspective and Be Grateful
When all’s said and done it helps to remember that there are a lot of people out there who are in a much worse situation than you. If you’re stressed because you have too many people on your guest list, be thankful that you have so many people that you love and care about. If you sick of arguing about the wedding registry, be grateful that you are receiving these amazing gifts.
It’s healthy and normal to feel stressed, wedding planning is stressful and you should never minimize your feelings, but in the grand scheme of things it’s not such a bad problem to have.
Now I’d Love To Hear From You
What’s your favorite way to destress, in 10 minutes or less? Let me know in the comments below!
Jennifer Dene xo